Interviews & Resources
Kate's interviews with people who opened up, plus the reading, quizzes and research she recommends for exploring kink and non-monogamy.
The lexicon
180 plain-language definitions of the words used in non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging and kink. Search it, filter by tag, or open any term to see what it means and how it is used.
Interviews
I sat down with people who weren't always open and asked how they got there. These are their stories, in their own words.
See the channel on YouTubeKate's guides
Jealousy in an open relationship: what it's telling you, and what to do next
A plain-language guide to the terms of non-monogamy
Exploring kink with a partner: how to start the conversation
What is polyamory? A plain-language introduction
What does ENM mean? Ethical non-monogamy explained
What is an open marriage? Agreements and first steps
Monogamish: what it means and how couples make it work
What is a polycule? Meaning, shapes and what keeps one healthy
What is a throuple? How it works and what to talk about
Kitchen-table polyamory: finding your version
Solo polyamory: what it means and what it looks like
Relationship anarchy: what it means and how it works
Compersion: what it is, and how it growsLooking up a word? The lexicon: 180 terms from non-monogamy and kink, defined in plain language
Recommended reading and tools
Learn your BDSM archetype test (not perfect but a great start and intro to terms)
Learn what you and your partner have in common for exploring
Great read on managing jealousy
Great read and intro to polyamory – terminology, the good and “the real”
Extensive list of BDSM terminology to learn
Pain as pleasure – The science
What to know about the all common kink, breathplay, written by an EMS worker
The effect of dominant play for women – with many other studies attached